New Year, New Beginnings

Once again, I find myself coming to you after months of being silent. I apologize for not being here more often. Life just seems to slip through my fingers and while I love and cherish my writing moments and sharing my passions and thoughts here with you all, I have come to learn this past year that living life is most important. So, if I have to choose between moments of living in the moment with my family or writing about those moments instead, I choose my family every time.

What a beautiful thing that is indeed.

This past year brought many answered prayers, many changes, some brokenness and some big news. As I have shared of course, some of the big changes were when Miss M came to live with us full time last Spring after school had ended. What a rejoicing it was for this mother’s heart. But as we have so often learned, seasons change and with that rejoicing, we quickly, just seven short months later, found ourselves grieving as we had to say goodbye to Miss M once again after her making the choice to move back to our hometown. A decision that was so hard for us to hear but one that we knew she had fully reflected before making. It was a moment that taught me much about my ability to once again trust in God’s perfect plan and not my own designs.

And in the  midst of our grief, the Lord brought us miracles and more answered prayers. As we looked to Him and wondered what His plan was, He chose to reveal another small glimpse: the blessing of a child. Just before we went home to visit family for Thanksgiving and say our goodbyes, we found out we were expecting our fourth child. I would say our final child but we are keeping our futures open to adoption down the road if that is a part of God’s plan also. It was such a bittersweet and beautiful time indeed.

In December, it was revealed that our little one would be a beautiful baby girl. A girl. Another precious daughter. A chance for redemption and restoration of the things in my life that the enemy has tried so long to take from me.  There are not enough words to describe my feelings of gratitude and sincere awe at God’s goodness, faithfulness and perfection.

So, in June of this year, we will welcome our littlest Miss M and we could not be more full of joy. With all of the changes, I have learned to draw closer back to my Savior. I have learned that I do have breaking points. That I cannot always be the strong one. Sometimes, I am the weak one. Sometimes, I can’t be there for the world because I need someone to be there for me. I learned that I make mistakes, that sometimes I let people down, even when I don’t mean to; that I doubt, that I often question but that God never makes mistakes and every detail of our lives that He knits together serves a much greater purpose than we see. While it was hard to have to have goodbyes and journeys end so soon, God used the times I had before them to bring healing, to bring restoration and to work wonders within our family and my own heart and mind.

Miss M is flourishing back  at home. Public school is definitely where she needed to be and with all of our moving coming up and the changes, she just really needed to back with her familiar routines and her learning styles outside of how we operate. Not to mention, she was incredibly homesick and that was hard to watch her journey through. She is full speed into her junior year and while I know she misses us and our moments here, she is happy to be back home with her Dad and step mom, her siblings and all of our families. Her time here brought them all closer together as well and she is making decisions that make us all so proud.

As for us, we are flourishing too. The Lord once again moved us to a new place of worship and His timing, though odd, was perfect. After working through many things these last three years, I found myself returning to a spirit filled church. A place where the miracles and love of God abound and there is much freedom and yet at the same time, a reverence to God’s freedom and not our own. It has been such a joy for us and Mister M has fallen in love with church all over again. Something he has not cared for much since leaving our home church three years ago.

We are flourishing with our faith, with our studies and as a family. God has brought a wholeness and a determination to our hearts that brings me to tears when I reflect upon it. I finally have a balance I have worked to find since coming to my Father 7 years ago and I have begun to discover things about myself that I never could grasp until this place. This wilderness experience.

And as with all wilderness experiences, God is moving us out and into a land of Promise. Our next big change is coming in March as we prepare to move to a new state with the Navy once again. A new land of hope and promise that God has designed for us. A new land that will hold many more lessons and faith building moments I am certain and a land that will bring further fulfillment of the many promises God has made over the years since we found Him and surrendered our lives to Him.

I have learned so many things in 2016 but the  most important of them all is that 2017 is our greatest year yet. It is our year of fulfillment and it is a year of HOPE. It is a year of new birth and new faith. It is going to be a year that we will remember for a lifetime. I am more certain of that than anything else.

I pray your year came to a beautiful close and that your new year has brought a beautiful new beginning. A fresh start and a fresh fire for your Father and His kingdom. We have so much to be thankful for and much to anticipate. I look forward to sharing it all with you in the months to come.

In Christ’s Love,

Kristy ❤

Time Out

I pray that I have been doing a fantastic job of writing as much as I can and sharing our amazing daily adventures with all of you while hopefully providing some much needed inspiration and resources all at the same time. After all, this is a journey where we need one another. Some days we are standing on the mountains screaming, “We did it!!!!” While others days, we are in the valley, crawling through the mud with tears in our eyes contemplating raising that oh so white flag.

I am thankful we tend to only “contemplate” that one. I pray we NEVER actually raise it.

Our family has been going through an incredible shifting the last few weeks which has been why my posts have been so few. We have been experiencing a lot of struggles and trials but it has grown us in ways I have been praying for for years so I am extremely thankful for them. One of those has been in my area of parenting. I wanted to learn to be more consistent with my discipline; to stop being the “Always Warning Mommy” to “Let’s Take Care of Business Momma”.

There are three core things we want our family to uphold:

  1. Obedience
  2. Respect
  3. Honesty

We want to make sure that when those three core things are broken, our son realizes there is an irreversible consequence. We want him to understand that we don’t just obey or respect God and our parents because we want to earn something but rather because Jesus sat the VERY example of obedience when He obeyed our Heavenly Father even unto death on a cross. We want  him to learn to obey because it is THE RIGHT THING TO DO and because it IS LOVING and because God sacrificed all for us.

So we began to make some major shifts. We sat down and created a new system. We put new rules into place and I began to learn to discipline immediately and stop just issuing empty warnings.

The result: We went from a homeschool and often days filled with chaos, fit throwing, back talking and eye rolling to a very well behaved, work completing, asking forgiveness, doing as instructed little man. And you know what else? He is HAPPIER and so are we.

Yes I said HAPPIER.

I know the world teaches a different viewpoint. They make us feel that if we “lay down the hammer” on our children we are stunting their independence, that we are being “too harsh” on them, that we are forcing something on them they should be able to decide for themselves but the truth is, children CRAVE discipline. They crave boundaries. They CRAVE to know a love like our God. I have always known this but the compassionate, nurturing side of me clouded my ability for years to see that if I want my child to love and respect God, which in turn helps them to love and respect me, I have to be consistent and intentional in  my discipline as well as my love.

The last few weeks, I had been silent because I needed a time out to assess the way we were homeschooling; to assess our values, our beliefs in regards to discipline and obedience. We discovered that what we wanted our son to know at the end of every day was pretty simple:

  1. That he was loved.
  2. That he was chosen.
  3. That he was created for a purpose.
  4. That in order to know that purpose, he has to understand the importance in loving, respecting and obey God.

After all, our children are on loan to us. What we show them, what we model for them, it will be the most crucial first lessons they will ever learn. Our time with them is valuable. It’s not about what can we buy them or give to them now; it’s what can we say and show to them next. What core things do we want them to know before they leave our nest?

For us, it is the simplicity that comes in knowing God is first; not because we are robots programmed to live as such but because we were so loved that God gave his ONLY son for OUR LIVES. It is essential to understand consequences so they can realize what an amazing gift the cross truly is; for a child to value and understand forgiveness, they have to understand what comes with judging our disobedience. Discipline is about so much more than just proving we are in authority…it is a valuable life lesson. One that not only teaches them obedience and respect but shows them how loving our God really is because someday there will be NO more consequences. Someday we can be fully free from our mistakes.

That’s pretty amazing if I do say so myself.

We allowed God to come in and change our hearts and our minds regarding homeschool, family life, priorities and even our faith and it has changed us in amazing and beautiful ways. It’s funny…I think we needed Homeschool for a lot more than just some math and phonics lessons. We  needed the time it provides for us to really see our son, to really understand how he learns and processes and thinks so that we can always be pointing him vertically right back to God.

I pray our experience and what I am sharing this evening encourages the others out there who are just not sure if you are getting right, who feel tired and weary; who aren’t sure they can handle one more time out or one more nose to the wall. Hang in there. These moments matter. They are making a HUGE difference in your child and someday they will have a greater love for God because of your diligence and they will thank you.

Good job Momma and Daddy. You are brave.

In Christ’s Love,

Kristy Delgado ❤

A few things we’ve done this week:

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We have been learning about Snowy Weather so he got to draw an image of what life would like “If I lived in a snowglobe.”

He had to use glitter of course.

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And then he TOTALLY blew me away when I asked him to get me the vacuum and he not only got it but plugged it in and starting cleaning up the glitter chaos without me even asking! *Proud Mommy Moment right here!*

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Also this week, we made our own snow using baking soda, conditioner and glitter!

It was a LOT of fun but our snow was a bit like dough 😉 Either way, it was a blast!

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And you can’t study about snow and not make a snowflake! That would just be wrong so:

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He made this beauty 🙂

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Finally, it’s fall and every year he carve pumpkins! Last year I carved Jesus into our pumpkin (no really I did and with ZERO pattern lol! It was long and tiring so we opted for something easier for now!)

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See…I was telling the truth 😉 (This will always be my favorite!)

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This one is not yet finished but will be Spiderman Themed. We are big on heroes!!!!